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MissiSnowWhite	how can I make friends?	Lead	[-]
Getting Comfy Posts: 19 (02/03/08 7:07 PM) Getting Comfy Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Report Post	I havent used this forum in a long time, I seem to join these things and then forget about them. But I could really use some advice. I have trouble leaving the house and also with meeting new people. I feel really lonely right now, none of my friends keep in touch, I've seen them once in the last year and it was akward, I just have nothing in common with them. How can I make friends that have the same interests as me? I'm so scared of talking to new people and of going far away from my house, but I'm really willing to try and make the extra effort if it means meeting new friends. urgh. this sucks.
Em		#1	[-]
Mad&Loving It Posts: 881 (02/03/08 10:30 PM) Mending My Wings So I Can Fly Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Report Post	Hiya, it's good to see you around on here again, it's been a while! I'm not really sure what to suggest that you may be able to do but if you're willing to try leaving the house and putting in some time and effort i'll try to suggest some ideas to you: Try taking an evening class or something along those lines doing something you enjoy (art/ a language/ photography, anything really) Find out if your local MIND office runs any sort of groups which you could go along to, you'd meet people who might understand how you feel Ask your doctor if he/she knows of any good organisations near your home which you could join Volunteer at a charity for a couple of hours a week. That way you'd get to meet the other staff and it would give you something to put on your CV!!! The thing is, and i hope i don't sound harsh here, making friends isn't easy unless you're one of a very few lucky people who can just draw people to them with no effort at all. I'm not one of those and i find meeting new people horrible. I hate all the senseless chit-chat (as i call it) that getting to know people takes but it can eventually be worth it. Let us know what happens. Em Cos I'm in too deep and I'm trying to keep Up above in my head, instead of going under
visiting mum		#2	[-]
Mad&Loving It Posts: 2455 (03/03/08 5:40 PM) Mad&Loving It Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Report Post	I think Ems ideas all have potential It isn't easy but if you go somewhere like a MIND group or evening class where you are all new together it sort of balances it off a bit and its easier somehow than starting to break into an established group. Smile and say hi even if you are shy. It is all folk need often to at least start the process. Deeper relationships take a lot longer but you have to start somewhere!! Let us know how it goes. btw pulling back from folk and struggling to go out sound a bit depressed to me so perhaps chat about that too with the GP if they are helpful.??
sahara09bond		#3	[-]
Mad&Loving It Posts: 207 (10/03/08 10:22 PM) Mad&Loving It Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Report Post	nice thread. I just wanted to add that I found recently not to 'expect too much' of socialising. You know, like 'I should be doing it like the people on telly' kind of thing ? real life is not always like hte telly. Sometime in the course of a day I have to have some conversations to do with practical things or might chat to a neighbour at the bus stop, like things are not always on a 'high wire' all the time. Well they can be but sometimes the expectations get in the way. Some days people strangers smile at me for no reason and sometimes they don't. Pepol come and go too sometimes you don't see them for months ! I hope you find your own way around it for you Sahara
visiting mum		#4	[-]
Mad&Loving It Posts: 2484 (10/03/08 10:26 PM) Mad&Loving It Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Report Post	A good point. I know if I expect not a lot then I am always encouraged by little gestures of friendship or social contact. I find when I can raise one a smile from me does a lot to elicit a positive reaction back. The days I feel anti social are the ones I feel alone in a crowd Lynn

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